"Young players are far more likely to become great players if they're allowed to make their own decisions when they play soccer"

WYOMING VALLEY SOCCER CLUB
Javier Rodriguez, Director / Phone: 570-472-3299

Introduction / Home Page

 

EPYSA changes being put into affect Fall 2016

 

Steps that new and old parents have to follow

 

Parents should hush on the ride home

 

Parents behavior

 

Noticed the last two years

 

Silent sideline

 

Adults can stop reading now

 

Questions to help parents Analyze their Child's Team

 

Concussion Management Resources

 

On the way to play --- Kids take cues from parents

 

Youth Parents Everywhere are to Blame

 

 

 

 

Welcome to Wyoming Valley Soccer Club: We are providing to the parents information about the club and other issues that have been collecting through the years.

EPYSA CHANGES BEING PUT INTO AFFECT FALL 2016:

Below is the timeline for the changes being put into effect for next Fall 2016 per EPYSA. Please read over this carefully.

Timeline for US Soccer player development initiatives from EPYSA website.

The US Youth Soccer Board of Directors approved US Soccer's Youth Development initiatives, which were made public in late August, 2015, early in September 2015.

The timing of the announcement caused some confusion among our members and affiliates as it coincided with the start of the 2015-16 Club Season. We've laid out these pages to better help our clubs understand the changes and to help them prepare.

Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer will move forward in the 2016-17 seasonal year with all of its programs and competitions registering by birth year.

The new seasonal year begins September 1, 2016. None of these changes will go into effect prior to that day. However, planning should begin soon.

Spring tryout dates and team selections will require attention. Educating players and their families will be necessary. Leagues and tournaments should begin to prepare for the adjustments. An important note is that these standards will be firmly applied to travel soccer.

For intramural and recreational leagues, we will continue to work with those groups to find solutions to work towards the US Soccer standards. We believe that variances may be applied in certain instances to meet the local needs to continue to develop players and grow the game. This may be especially true with our youngest players who have been traditionally grouped by grade, or by logically combining appropriate ages simply to form teams or leagues.

US Soccer Player Development: Frequently Asked Questions per EPYSA

When will the changes take place?
Earlier in September 2015, the US Youth Soccer Board of Directors approved the move to birth-year registration for the 2016-17 season. Therefore, in cooperation with the national office, the changes will take effect September 1, 2016.

Will existing teams be "grandfathered" in?
In short, no. All teams registered with Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer, regardless of how long they've existed, must comply with the new guidelines. We understand this means several teams will likely have a new makeup, one of the chief concerns of players and coaches.

What we can say, is that teams will still have the option of playing up. So, for example, a U11 team this season can play U13 next to accommodate all of its players. However, we don't know yet how that will affect their cup status.

How do the changes affect roster sizes?
This is one of the specifics that we along with US Youth Soccer are still working out. Given the changes to U12 and under play, we can expect roster limits to change as well. We just don't know what the number will be yet. We'll learn more in the coming months.

Do our facilities need to change their goal and field sizes immediately on September 1, 2016?
No, but organizations and leagues should make an effort to adapt to the standards when purchasing new goals or designing new fields.

What does this mean for 2015-16 cups?
All cup competitions, including outdoor cups (NCS State Cup, Presidents Cup, Turkey Hill Challenge Cup) and the Indoor Cup, will abide by the current rules as it pertains to registration. US Youth Soccer will move to birth-year registration starting with the 2016-17 Cup Season.

the league received an email from Chris Branscome at the EPYSA office regarding the new U.S. soccer player development initiatives that everyone has heard about recently. Per the state office's email these changes I will go into effect next Fall 2016.

The details on these new initiatives including the field and goal size recommendations can be found at the below link on EPYSA' s website


htt.epysa.org/membership/USSoccerDevelopment


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Here is what EPYSA sent out yesterday in case your club did not receive it.

Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer: News Release
Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer Members and Affiliates-

In recent weeks, we've been working to better understand the impact of changes coming to the US Soccer Federation in terms of youth player development in the 2016-17 season.

We know more questions will arise as we approach next summer but for now here's a memo I've put together on behalf of our Board of Directors.

US Soccer Initiatives

Also, with the help of our staff, we've put together an easy to follow chart that breaks down the changes. Please peruse this chart at your convenience and share with your members as you see fit.

Thank you for your patience,

Chris Branscome
Chief Executive Officer
Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer

The developmental initiative focuses on the change of registration from the “seasonal year” or “school year” to the calendar year, or birth year of the player.  The primary reason is to move the United States to the FIFA standard.

The US Youth Soccer Board of Directors approved a motion for the implementation of the mandated registration change for all US Youth Soccer programs and competitions for the 2016-17 year.   The US Youth Soccer programs and competitions that will introduce the birth-year registration in the 2016-17 soccer year include, but are not limited to, the following:

·         US Youth Soccer National Championships Series — including national, regional and state competitions

·         US Youth Soccer Presidents Cup — including national, regional and state competitions

·         US Youth Soccer National League and Regional Leagues

·         US Youth Soccer Olympic Development Program

 

Therefore Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer will move forward in the 2016-17 seasonal year with all of its programs and competitions registering by birth year as well.

To calculate the proper year for a player, take the ending year of the seasonal year and subtract the player’s birth year. 

o    Example #1:  2017 – 2002 = 15; the player is a U15 for the 2016-17 season

o    Example #2:  2017 – 2005 = 12; the player is a U12 for the 2016-17 season

o    Example #3:  2018 – 1999 = 19; the player is U19 for the 2017-18 season

birth-year chart new

 

STEPS THAT NEW AND OLD PARENTS HAVE TO FOLLOW:

                                                                                                                                           

Soccer information:

 

- Dr. McDonald and I send e-mails to the parents with any kind of information  

- The mom/dad (they are not managers) that we already assigned will follow with another e-mail to the parents

- Please check the club staff link http://www.wyomingvalleysc.com/staff.htm 

- The parents will send an e-mail back to Dr. McDonald and Javier

- If  we do not get an e-mail then I follow with a phone call to the parent or an e-mail or will find the parent at training session

 

In case a game or training is cancelled:

 

- I call Dr. McDonald and he sends an e-mail to the parents

- Check website and parents must check all the time the website before they leave their house

- Team helper makes some calls or text the parents (create a phone tree)

- Parents can call anytime Dr. McDonald (570) 706-5893 or my cell phone (570) 233-0238

- Get in touch with a parent before you leave your house to a training session or tournament or league game 

 

In case a new or old parent has a suggestion or a problem:

 

- Call or send e-mail to Dr. McDonald or Javier

- Mention to the team helper and he/she will pass the information to us

- If you have a problem during the game wait 24 hours before you call Javier
 

Parents and Players commitment:
 

 I divided the commitment in three categories
 

- 1st category: Players want to be in every sport and everything under the sun. Commits but can not make it to everything.
- 2nd category: Players play other sport but priority is soccer. Commits to every soccer activity
- 3rd category: Player  wants to play soccer when the player is ready. Does not answer e-mails, phone calls or text messages. Shows up whenever to games, training sessions and wants the same amount of time playing during the game.
- 4th category: Players just play soccer. Commits to every soccer activity.
- Commitment per year is $100.00 per player

- Includes: EPYSA insurance player card, player card, transfer or release or add player fee, website fee, stamps, overnight paperwork (federal express) fee, phone bill, computers, printers and copy machine, toners for printers, office supplies

- Other clubs charge more than $100.00 

Training sessions outside and DOME:

Parents comments: He puts in the website team training but he mixes with other ages during the training session. I agree with you but only some teams are coming as a team and other teams and players come according their other sports and other commitments. I thought if they are paying they will show up but parents and players will make the decision during the week. This is the reason I divided parents and players commitment in four categories. Personally I wish every team and players come on time with his/her team but the day of the training I make the decision to mix them or split the team. Working on it and getting better with some teams. Dome is different story. It is hard with the little time they give us and sometimes we are like sardines in the field. Why? the place is very expensive to rent more fields and time slots are not available. I do not think you want me to increase the Dome fee.        

 

 

Billing: 


Big clubs will provide you a yearly fee and parents can pay payments  during the year. This way we are not late to apply to tournaments, Dome, leagues and parents can plan ahead other commitments.  I usually send you your Invoice but you can ask anytime your invoice.

Some parents comments: It is very expensive to play soccer or other sports. Yes you are right but I am trying to help you to get sponsors, run fundraising and trying to run my fundraising to cut other expenses like rental fields, Dome fee and club expenses. Some parents do not want to get sponsors or do fundraising but they like to complaint about the fees. 

 

Club Organization: 


Some parents think and tell other parents that we need organization in this club.

- Dr. McDonald and I provide you information. I thought it was enough help but parents still complaint.
- We got parents to help and provide the same information. Still parents complaint.

I thought it was our mistake but it is the parents that do not answer.

- When parents do not answer we do not have the answer to the other parents. One major problem for organization.
- The same parents answer all the time but the other parents do not care but they are the parents that complain all the time .

Why they do not answer:

- Because they have many other things to consider before they answer
- They want to know if the
core players are coming to the game
- The player has other sport and the time is the same  with the soccer game
- Many, many, many reasons. So we do not get an answer.

Other excuses from parents

- I do not check my e-mails
- Sorry I miss the call
- I did not check my text messages my phone die
- This is not important at this time to answer it is just soccer.
- I am busy at work do not have time

Please the parents helper is getting tired because you do not answer. One parent helper said I do not know how you do it Javier I am just trying to get answers from one team and you have to deal with multiple teams every day. Is it hard for the parents to answer YES or NO? My answer is simple they do not want to answer because they are working in the other things and they do not want to miss the soccer game and they want make the other things, too.

Please I understand that you have other priorities but will make my job easy if you answer the questions. 

 

Parent helper job:

 

- Parent helper thought it is a simple job but now they say it is not easy because parents do not care to answer.
- If I do not get an answer I chase them at training sessions. Why? they can not answer  a simple e-mail
 

Parent helper is trying to provide you information so you can plan ahead your weekend. The first step is for you to answer if your son/daughter will participate but you do not provide us an answer and makes our job difficult. How hard is for you to answer the e-mail or text. If you answer then will make our job easier to deal with the other parents.

 

What happen if parents get together and are talking about different scenarios 

 

- Parents can discuss anything anytime. Do you think anybody can stop parents talking in between each other? NO

- Parents can get together but one suggestion do not create me rumors because I will hear the rumor sooner or later

- How do we stop a rumor. Very simple: If you do not hear or get an e-mail from Dr. McDonald or me then is a rumor

- We welcome suggestions and will discuss it and provide you an answer

- Coaches staff, coaches, assistant coaches, helpers and parents as a coach. Sorry Javier makes the decision.

 

How come we do not have managers

 

- Many years ago we had managers then the managers took themselves to a higher level

- Made training sessions around their schedule without asking the parents 

- Some managers created their group and created problems between others parents

- Provided only information to some parents and skip the rest of the parents

- Too many chiefs not enough indians

- The club works better without managers

 

Coaches and soccer suggestion

 

- I am very careful who do I assign to be an assistant coach or help me during the game or training session

- A club went down a few years ago. Affected many players, parents, coaches and soccer in general. This is the main reason I have to be very careful with my staff

- I will be polite to listen your soccer expertise but have been playing since 5 years old and coaching more than 25 years. I have been running this program for 16 years, have been very successful and shows my record 

- I heard all the time how come the Dome is not improving, how come the food is bad, how come they charge too much, how come the leagues are weak and many other comments. My answer is very simple how come you do not open a Dome. The same thing with my club how come you do not open a soccer club and see the real problems I have to deal everyday

 

Some issues that we already took care and other issues that we need to take before August 31st

 

- Last year we removed a parent/coach from the club. We did the right thing and this year the team has been running without problems. One person can take down the ship but we fixed it and the ship is doing fine.

-  Three or four years ago we removed a coach (his club went down this year) from the club and believe or not it was the best and smart thing we did. Through the years my club, Dr. McDonald, my wife and myself put up with many things from him and his club but I said all the time just wait until the parents from his club will find out the way he runs the show. 

- This year we removed a parent during the soccer season because he controls his/her son/daughter from the minute started the game and training session to the minute finished the game or training session. It was not a healthy situation between parent and player. We informed the gentleman but did not get it and we had to remove him from the team. Parents step back let your son/daughter learn, enjoy and develop soccer.         

- This year we have a parent that will have to inform him/her that the player is welcome to play for the club but he/she is not welcome to come and watch his/her son/daughter.     

- This year we have a parent that he needs to be more positive with the team and not all the time negative. He/she needs to understand that we do not have enough players in this community and since I came to this area everything is negative. The team has been winning tournaments, ended first in the PAGS league and lost the semifinal game in Outdoor State Cup. The parent does not see the big picture we have small community and compete with teams that have 80 players to try out for a team and they make 4 teams  

- Of course we have many parents that they think their son/daughter is playing the wrong position, has to play longer or other soccer situations. Again if you do not like the way we run this club please find another club

- Parent and player make a commitment for one year with the club. Every year we evaluate the parent and player. If we know that the parent will continue causing problems during the new year we do not have to register his/her son/daughter again for the new year

    

Fundraising

 

Some teams have been doing almost the same fundraising every year. Now some teams are not happy that the other teams are running the same type of fundraising . 

 

We tried to run the fundraising program as a club and did not work. Now we are running as a team fundraising and it is creating problems between teams  

 

- Team needs to provide us with the type of fundraising that the team will run 

- How many fundraising programs the team will run through the year (season, month and type)

- Will decide which teams will run the different fundraising

 

If these three suggestions above do not work until August 31, 2012 then will go back to run as a club fundraising

 

 

Tournaments and leagues

 

- This spring season we tried a different way to go to tournaments and play leagues

- We provided the parents the tournaments date ahead and asked them to answer a simple e-mail to which tournaments they want to participate

- After I got the answers I put the player name in the web site and parents knew ahead who was coming to the tournaments

- In some areas it worked this process but still some parents do not answer the e-mails, some they answered but changed their minds, some did not answer but they came to the tournament

 

Where is the problem?

 

- Simple answer commitment

- If we have players on a waiting list then we would not have this problem

- If the majority answered then we would not worry about the parents that did not care to answer the e-mail

- Of course parents and players have other priorities and other sports that they need to check first before they give me an answer 

- Some parents want to see the core players before they answer the e-mail

 

Parents noticed that other clubs run a different way than us

 

- Of course and I know about the other clubs but we have a different situation

- In our teams we have full time players,  part time players and players that soccer is another sport like the other sports

 

How can we fix it?

 

- Simple more full time players, less part time players and send home the players that do not care to make a full time commitment

- This is my goal (full time players) but we still live in a small area with multiple sports and the area does not provide enough players for multiple sports. One player in this area might be playing three to four sports during the season. At the end the player gets burn out

What are the steps we take to go to a tournament

- Will mix some tournaments. Some high level tournaments (challenge) and some easy tournaments to build confidence
- High level tournaments are more expensive than the local and lower level tournaments
- College Showcase tournaments are very expensive $800.00 to $1000.00 per team
- We try to bring all the teams to the same tournament because some parents have other children in the club. Parents can not be at the same time in  two different locations and do not want to send their other son/daughter with other parents. I understand this situation because I am the same way.
- Parents like one day tournament. Less expenses.
- Some parents like the overnight tournaments. More expenses.

- Ranking is very important for the club over U-12B/G. Key decision for me to put the teams at the right tournament.

- Ranking is not important yet for U-10 or U-11  team but the team needs to play high level tournaments to get ready for ranking after they are U-12

- These are the tournament levels

 Tournament Levels
 

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Premier Elite Tournament
6500+ Points

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Premier Tournament
4000+ Points

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Platinum Tournament
3000+ Points

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Gold Tournament
1500+ Points

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Silver Tournament
750+ Points

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Bronze Tournament
400+ Points

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Copper Tournament
200+ Points

 

Example:

- Keystone Cup is a GOLD level

- Lehigh Valley runs two tournaments. One is a SILVER and the other tournament is a BRONZE level

 

Which tournament would I pick Keystone Cup tournament over Lehigh Valley

 

Intramural teams, travel teams, club teams and select teams:

 

- Some parents do not know the difference between Intramural and club teams

- Some parents think that the player is playing forward and scores all the goals in intramural the player can do the same thing in travel, club and select

- Sorry Intramural is for the community to have fun, enjoy soccer and learn basic soccer. Club and select teams are for advance players
- The player who scores all the goals in intramural could be a defender in club soccer and learn to get better to reach the forward position in the future
- The player who scores all the goals in intramural could be a forward in club soccer because the player is an athlete and can learn quick  

Leagues Information:

- 10 years ago the club participated in the local leagues and Philadelphia leagues
- Local leagues: Back Mountain handled ages from 9 to 10 years old and Northeast travel handled ages from 11 to 18 years old
- Now Back Mountain and Northeast travel leagues disappeared 3 years ago.
This year Back Mountain will not run the fall league. Got an e-mail on Friday, July 20, 2012.
- Another league that the club participated was Lehigh Valley in Allentown, CPYSL in Lancaster and Central Penn in Bloomsburg
- What happen to these leagues. They became intramural, competition went down and did not get any recognition or points when the teams applied to tournaments
- When we apply to tournaments they ask for tournament records, league competition and EPYSA Outdoor State Cup records
- If the teams or club apply and play for high level leagues then we can participate in high level tournaments
- PAGS is for Girls and Delco SL is for Boys in Philadelphia. EDP -  MAPS is another high level league but it is in New Jersey
 

What Leagues are the teams playing in the Fall 2015:


- Every  year the WVYSL league run the Spring and Fall local league and I enter the younger teams to play this league (U-8B/G, U-9G and U-10G) 
- For the first time the WVYSL local league will not accept Travel teams. The league wants only Intramural teams.


-  The teams will participate in the EDP NJ Fall/Spring league $180.00 per player includes referees fee for 2 seasons, bond fee, insurance fee and  US Club roster. US Club Player card :  extra $24.00 per player

- The teams will participate in the Delco SL fall league $110.00 per player includes registration, EPYSA player card, referees fee and insurance
- The WVYSL will work the schedule around the EDP and Delco SL schedule
- Usually Delco SL league plays on Saturday and EDP league plays on Sunday
- Sometimes some teams get 6 home games and 4 away games. Sometimes the team gets 5 home games and 5 away games
- PAGS league accepts 3 secondary players for the season but secondary players can not play playoff games. There are not playoff games for U-9 to U-11 bracket
- Delco SL league accepts 5 guest players every week. Players must be from the same club and can not play playoff games
- PAGS web site www.pags.org

- Delco SL web site www.delcosoccer.org

 Why do we participate in PAGS, EDP and Delco SL?


- I formed this Club for competition and did not create this club to play intramural leagues
- If you want to participate in the local leagues then you do not need to train all year long you can just join a local team and play the intramural league

If we have low numbers in the roster why we do not put two teams together

- I tried two years ago 98/97Girls team
- We went from 10 player to 18 players
- Some players quit because they did not have enough playing time in the games
- My job was easy because I had players in the bench
- Parents did not like it because the players did not play enough like they use to play
- What is the solution?

If I have 5 or 6 subs the coach is in trouble because the players will not play enough.
If I have just  enough players then some players will be missing at the games because other reason. Of course will lose the games

Solution:

Have enough players with two subs but the key is COMMITMENT from parent and player. 11 v 11 have 13 players and 8 v 8 have 10 players   

PAGS, EDP and Delco SL rules:


- PAGS, EDP and Delco SL league do not deal with parents they deal with a representative from each club
- Parents can not send e-mails to the league because the leagues do not have time to answer every e-mail from every parent. Parents must go to the representative
- Parents can not call or e-mail the other team and coach to change games or ask other questions. Parents must go to the representative
- Last Fall two parents went ahead and called the coaches. The representative from the other club contacted me about this issue. Please do not contact any coach or team. I know you
can not wait to get an answer but sometimes fields, times, weather or reschedule are issues that only representatives know about it. 

DOME Winter training and leagues (Wyoming Valley Sports Dome – Wilkes Barre, PA):

 

Every year at the end of October parents ask me when are we going to the Dome.
 
-  November: we are still playing outside (Delco and EDP leagues)  and usually we go the second week of November (depends on the weather)
- The first two weeks of November the teams continue training outside at 4:00PM to 5:30PM check club website training link www.wyomingvalleysc.com
- Like usual only a few players answered that they want to train at the Dome. Need more answers
- Last year the league was not great for the teams. This year I am checking the teams and ages and will make sure we have competition
- Usually my teams take a BYE the first and second week before we start playing the winter league
- The main thing in order to train at the Dome need to collect the DEPOSIT fee $100.00 (RESERVE RENTAL FIELD FEE)
- Provide you the full amount for the FIELD RENTAL FEE (depends how many players paid the deposit fee)
- Provide you the winter league fee (depends how many players are interested at the Dome or another complex)
- Dome 1st session: November 2015 will - January 2016
- Dome 2nd session: January - March 2016
 
- Older teams U-15B and U-16B teams will play on SUNDAY (AFTER 6:00pm) OPEN MEN 2ND DIVISION AT THE DOME.  
 
- Some teams went to Riverfront but the competition was not great
 
 RIVERFRONT COMMENTS:
       Some parents liked it because they were more teams to play
       Some parents did not like it because the teams were intramural teams
       Some parents liked it because we can get more players to come to the team. Of course some parents do not want more players because will reduce the playing time for               their  son/daughter  
       Some parents liked it because it was cheaper than the Dome. Riverfront 8 games without playoff games Dome 10 games and playoff games
       Some parents said the price is the same because they have to spend in gas and distance
 
       Why do we train and play the winter leagues because we get ready for the EPYSA Indoor State Cup Tournament

  Referees corner:    

 

Murray, Utah - Referee punched by 17 year old player has died 4/27/13 Full article www.timesleader.com 

"If you find yourself repeatedly feeling like you have to let the official know he's made a bad call,   SIGN UP TO OFFICIATE NEXT SEASON"

 Training sessions:    

 

The summer season is over this week, players and teams stayed and trained longer, some players came late to training sessions, some players skip training sessions now that school started players and teams must come on time to their training session.

 

At the end of this month August 31st finishes the year 2014 - 2015. September 1st starts the new season 2015 - 2016.

 

New training calendar starting September 1st:

 

WVSC ‘05Girls team becomes U-10G

WVSC '04Girls team becomes U-11G

WVSC '03Girls team becomes U-12G

WVSC '01Girls team becomes U-14G

WVSC '98/97Girls team becomes U-18G

 

WVSC '07Boys team becomes U-8B

WVSC '06Boys team becomes U-9B

WVSC '05Boys team becomes U-10B

WVSC '04Boys team becomes U-11B

WVSC '03Boys team becomes U-12B

WVSC '02Boys team becomes U-13B

WVSC '01Boys team becomes U-14B

WVSC '00Boys team becomes U-15B

VSC ‘98Boys team becomes U-17B

 

How do I know the right training day and time for my son/daughter team:

 

EXAMPLE:

 

Sept 10 LCSC    (4:00PM - 5:30PM Team U-8/9Boys) (4:00PM - 5:30PM U-8/9Girls Team) (5:00PM - 6:30PM Team U-10/11B) (5:30PM Team U-13G) (6:30PM - 8:00PM Team U-12/13B) (6:30PM - 8:00PM Team U-14/15G) 

  

4:00PM - 5:30PM Team WVSC '04/03Boys

4:00PM - 5:30PM Team WVSC '04/03Girls

 

5:00PM - 6:30PM Team WVSC '02/01Boys

5:30PM - 7:00PM Team WVSC '99Girls

 

6:30PM - 8:00PM Team WVSC '00/99Boys

6:30PM - 8:00PM Team WVSC '98/97Girls

 

PARENTS SHOULD HUSH ON THE RIDE HOME

By Mike Woitalla

"What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?"

That was the question posed to college athletes in a survey by
Proactive Coaching. The overwhelming response was: "The ride home from games with my parents."

Children, not surprisingly, don’t enjoy a critique of their performance when they settle into the backseat. Who, no matter what age, would?

Imagine a rough day at the office -- an office that resembles a typical youth soccer game. Your boss screams instructions while you work and lectures you before and after. Then you ride home with your parents. They’ve witnessed your mistakes. So they offer you advice.

No matter how well-intentioned, their advice will likely register as admonishment. And they’re denying your desire – your right -- to wind down and contemplate your feelings on your own terms.

If a parent actually did have some advice for a young player that might help the child, after the game -- when the kids are physically and emotionally spent – is certainly not the time.

In that same survey, the athletes were asked what words from their parents they remembered most fondly. The by far most common response was, "I love to watch you play."

PARENTS BEHAVIOR

 

Before the parent behavior starts kicking during the Fall Soccer season or other tournaments it is better to solve the issue.

 

I tell the players and teams all the time during training and game times. Our teams are like a Roller Coaster we have great players, middle players and players that need more work. The players are not in the same level but still the teams produce during the game. Simple answer to the parent if you do not like it find another team or club.   

 

Parents behavior that nobody can solve this problem:

 

A. Attack the coach during the game and after the game.

B. Yelled at the referee during the games.

C. Make comments about the team and players.

D. Yelled to the players during the game.

E. The coach is instructing the players during the game but the parents are telling the players the opposite.  Player is confused. 

 

Solutions that some parents will get it. I will send "Parents behavior" e-mail every week or every other week.

 

A. You have a problem with the coach during the game, address the issue after 24 hours when you calm yourself. I have been telling my coaches that if a parent corners you then walk away and do not answer the parent. Just inform the parent to call Javier or Dr. McDonald. 

 

B. Stop yelling at the referee because he will not change his mind. He made the call good or bad and he is in charge in the field.

 

C. Keep your comments to yourself about the team and players or quit and find another team or club.

 

D. Stop yelling and instructing your son/daughter during the game. Some people say that Javier yells the funny part I took my son to Junior high and my son tells me after the training that the coach yells, too. Of course if I have all stars players then I will yell less. 

 

E. There is a coach in the field and the player gets confuse when two or more people are talking at the same time. 

 

A few weeks ago somebody game me a solution. It will be better if the parents did not come to the game, the kids will be having a lot more fun. 

 

Today we received many articles and sent them to the parents. I hope some they "read" and "understand" the articles and will see during the season. 

 

Some notes from e-mails from some parents that I like to share with everybody.

 

The parents continue to coach on the sideline and there were at least 3 plays that ended up "bad" because the parents were yelling instructions that the player listened to, that caused the bad plays.  The  players DO NOT want to hear from their parents (except "good job" to the entire team).  We will never correct this!  We can only continue to ask the parents for "Silent Sidelines".

 

You can guide a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. Players play and coaches coach.

You will always have issues with parents. Its the nature of the beast! Hang in there and continue to teach our little ones. We need more coaches like you in youth sports. Not parent coaches who live vicariously through their sons/daughters.
 

NOTICED THE LAST TWO YEARS    

 

 

Some players decided to take some time off during the year special Dome season,  spring time (baseball) and summer. Sorry, this year you are making a commitment all year long.  Why?

 

- Affects pricing

- Affects tournaments and tournaments pricing

- Affect training sessions 

 

Of course I will get individual e-mails from parents telling me that they can not afford the Dome and other fees, they need to take some time off, they play another sport in the spring. No problem some they try to get away but will affect the price in the Dome and other fees (higher).

 

DOME: I already told the Dome that the price is high and need to have a different package. It is not working training and leagues as a package because now the leagues are weak and there are not many teams to compete. The dome will present me with a different package and will let you know the options.  

 

SILENT SIDELINE

This article "Silent Sidelines" is 7 pages and hopefully they will open the attach file.

 

 

“What’s all that noise from the sidelines?”

A mother was making a breakfast of fried eggs for her teenage son. Suddenly the boy bursts into the kitchen.

"Careful! Careful! Put in some more butter! Oh my goodness! You're cooking too many at once. TOO MANY! Turn them! TURN THEM NOW! We need more butter. Oh my! WHERE are we going to get MORE BUTTER? They're going to STICK! Careful!... CAREFUL! I said CAREFUL! You NEVER listen to me when you're cooking! Never! Turn them! Hurry up! Are you crazy? Have you lost your mind? Don't forget to salt them. You know you always forget to salt them. Use the salt. USE THE SALT! THE SALT!"  

The mother stared at him. "What's wrong with you? You think I don't now how to fry a couple of eggs?" 

The son calmly replied, "I just wanted to show you what it feels like when I'm trying to play soccer." 

In theory, soccer is supposed to be an enjoyable “game” organized for and played by kids.  Its’ purpose is to teach game skills, tactics and a love for physical activity.  In addition, and when in the hands of appropriate adults, soccer provides its’ young participants with a whole host of valuable life learning experiences like hard work as a vehicle for success, teamwork, good sportsmanship, healthy competition, mastering adversity in the pursuit of a goal and utilizing failure constructively, all of which are geared towards building self-confidence and leaving the child feeling better about himself.   In theory

Unfortunately, as the above scenario all too commonly illustrates, the reality of today’s youth soccer experience is vastly different.  Misguided adults, both parents and coaches are inadvertently and selfishly distracting the child-athlete from what’s really important and, in the process, killing his/her joy for the sport.  Parents who get too caught up in the game’s outcome, who pressure their kids to perform, who are overly critical and demeaning when they make mistakes, insure that their child will consistently play well below their potential, seriously jeopardize the parent-child relationship and increase the likelihood that their child will soon become a sports drop-out statistic.

There’s no question that the vast majority of parents mean well and want their children to be happy and successful.  Towards this end, they are willing to sacrifice their time, energy and financial resources taxiing their kids to and from practices, getting them additional training, volunteering for team and club functions and spending countless hours on the sidelines at tournaments and games.  Unfortunately, far too many parents do not know exactly what they should and shouldn’t be doing to be the most helpful.  Despite having positive intentions and their child’s best interests at heart, these parents say and do things before, during and after games that distract the child from focusing on the actual game, increase his/her anxiety level and, as a consequence, sabotage his/her overall level of play.

So just how important is it for you as a parent that your child has a positive, enriching experience in this sport?  Do you really want daughter to perform to her potential?  Are you truly interested in seeing smiles out there during games instead of tears and unhappiness?   If your answer to these questions is a resounding “YES!” then there are very specific things that you can do as a parent to make these things happen. Your role in relation to your child’s soccer is absolutely critical in determining the quality of their experience.  If you adopt the appropriate behaviors and play the right role, then you will ensure that soccer brings a smile to your child’s face and joy to his heart.  If you play the wrong role then you’ll end up making a significant contribution to your child’s unhappiness and heartache.

So what’s the right role?  First and foremost your main “job” is to be your child’s best fan.  You need to be unconditionally supportive.  If your child is having a bad game, then she needs your love and support far more than when she’s playing out of her mind.  After a tough loss or a poor outing she needs you to be positive, compassionate and loving.  Providing feedback on what she did wrong or expressing your disappointment in her play is NOT what she needs and will only serve to make a painful situation much worse.

Along these lines, love and support does NOT mean that you coach from the sidelines.  In fact, the VERY WORST THING that you as a parent can do is to “coach” from the sidelines.  What’s coaching?  Offering “helpful” advice and strategy before and during the game, telling your child what to do and where to go, criticizing their play and getting angry with them when they make mistakes are all examples of off-limit, exceedingly destructive parental behaviors.  After game critiquing is another example of VERY destructive parental coaching behavior.  Understand that you are NOT helping your child when you coach.  You will NOT get them to play better. You are NOT motivating them, even if you know the game and that’s your intention!  On the contrary! Coaching and critiquing from the sidelines will distract your child from the flow of the game, make him more nervous, kill his enjoyment and, as a consequence, insure that he will consistently play badly.  In addition, keep in mind that your “helpful” sideline comments are most often experienced by your child as an embarrassment! Coaching behaviors are only appropriate from the coaches, NOT the parents. 

Instead, parents should smile from the sidelines, cheer for good execution regardless of which side it comes from, and encourage fair play and good sportsmanship.  This means that you as a parent need to model appropriate, mature behaviors during the game.  Yelling at your child, their teammates or the opponents is NOT mature, appropriate behavior.  Loudly critiquing the officiating is NOT mature or appropriate either.  It is NOT your job to critique the referees.  Regardless of how well you may know this game, your calls are not better than the referees’.  Excuse me, but you are just a tad bit biased in this situation!  Loudly complaining to the ref every time he makes a “bad call” is not only an embarrassment to your child, but it’s quite selfish on your part.  It takes the focus of the game off of the kids where it belongs and puts it on YOU.  Remember, soccer is about the kids, NOT the adults.

Along these same lines it is NOT appropriate for you to spend your sideline time grumbling to other parents about your team’s coaches and the playing or tactical decisions that they make.  If you have a problem with the coaches then deal with them at an appropriate time and place, NOT just before, during or right after a game. Most coaches are volunteers, are grossly underpaid for their time and are doing the best job that they know how. What they need from you is your support and help, NOT your disdain and criticism. 

Finally, try to act on the sidelines in a way that would make your daughter proud to have you as a parent. Remember, your child is not the only one that’s performing during the game.  You are also a performer and the quality of their experience is in your hands.  Conduct yourself in such a way that you clearly communicate to your child and those around you that this is just a game for children, played by children.  That is, you need to keep the proper perspective at all times.  If there are other parents around you who are unable to maintain this kind of perspective, notify the team’s coach or league officials.  It’s not your job to get in the face of another parent for misbehaving. 
 

Remember, soccer is a wonderful vehicle to help your children learn valuable life lessons.  Do your part to insure that the lessons that they learn are constructive and positive

 ADULTS CAN STOP READING NOW

(With fall soccer starting around the country, the Youth Soccer Insider republishes this article, which first appeared in September 2009.)

This column is for the kids. Adults can stop reading now.

By Mike Woitalla

Dear Soccer-Playing Children of America,

The fall season is underway and I'm hoping you're having a great time. I'm hoping that you're playing soccer more than you have to stand in line and do drills.

I hope you're falling in love with the soccer ball and keep it with you as much as you can. Juggling it. Kicking it against a wall. Dribbling it around in your backyard.

And I especially hope that your parents aren't screaming at you during your soccer games.

I worry that you probably do get yelled at, because that's what I see at almost all the youth soccer games I go to. Hopefully you just ignore it. But I don't blame you if it bothers you.

No one enjoys getting screamed at. Sure, if you start crossing the street on a red light or throw a toy at your little sister or brother, your parents are justified in raising their voices. But they shouldn't scream at you while you're playing a game.

If they do, it doesn't mean they're bad people. But, unfortunately, sports does something to adults that makes them behave in ways they usually wouldn't.

You may have noticed this if you watched sports on TV. A coach, for example, dresses up in a fancy suit and throws tantrums like a 3-year-old.

Get adults around sports and all of a sudden they forget the same manners they try to teach you. In a way, sports are like driving. A grown-up gets behind the wheel and all of a sudden forgets you're not supposed to pick your nose in public.

And when grown-ups go watch their children play soccer, they, for some reason, think it's OK to scream like maniacs. Perhaps they don't realize what they're doing. Like the nose-pickers on the freeway who think they've suddenly gone invisible.

I hope you're able to block out all the sideline noise. But maybe you do hear their shouts. Telling you when to shoot the ball, when to pass it. Ignore all that!

You need to dribble the ball. Try to dribble past players. If you're dribbling too much, your teammates will let you know. And they'll help you make the decision of when to pass and when to dribble.

You decide when to shoot. When you're dribbling toward the goal and the goalkeeper is 20 yards away, and the adults are screaming at you to shoot, don't pay attention. Because if you get closer to the goal, it will be harder for the goalkeeper to stop your shot.

One of the really cool things about my job is that I get to interview the best coaches in America. And you know what the national team coaches tell me? They say young players are far more likely to become great players if they're allowed to make their own decisions when they play soccer.

They say that coaches should coach at practice, and when it's game time, it's time for the children to figure things out on their own. It's like at school. The teachers help you learn. Your parents may help you with homework. But when you get a test, you're on your own.

That's just an analogy. I'm not saying soccer is school! Soccer is your playtime.

I hope you have lots of playtime, on the soccer field and elsewhere. But I bet that you don't have as much time playing without adults around as we did when we were children.

When we were kids we had summer days when we would leave the house in the morning, be only with other children all day, then see our parents when we got back in the late afternoon.

Things have changed. The reasons adults are much more involved in your activities than they were when they were children are complicated, and a result of your parents' good intentions.

But sometimes we adults forget how important it is for you to play without us interfering. We love watching you play, especially on the soccer field, because it is such a wonderful sport. But we need to be reminded that it's your playtime.

You should decide. Ignore the shouts if you can. But don't be afraid to say, "I'm trying my best. Please, don't scream at me."

(Mike Woitalla, the executive editor of Soccer America, coaches youth soccer for
East Bay United in Oakland, Calif. His youth soccer articles are archived at YouthSoccerFun.com.)

Questions to Help Parents Analyze Their Child's Team

 

By Stan Baker

The 10 questions found below are especially directed toward parents who have children 10 years old and above.

Below this age level, the players are still very egotistical and focused on themselves rather than on any sort of collective play. The infamous swarm is actually just a reflection of the natural process. The best thing to do is to keep the numbers low for this age group since fewer players mean more access to the ball and less suffocation by both teammates and opponents. This will ultimately lead to better player development.

To avoid confusion and disappointment from parents, coaches of players under 10 years old should communicate to them that it is OK at this age level for the players to gravitate to the ball, and that the game played by the youngest players shouldn’t reflect that of a professional team.

The intention of this list of 10 questions is not to put any extra pressure on the coach, but rather to help solidify the parent support for long-term development.

Parents who understand what the team is trying to accomplish and what our style of play looks like, will be more likely to lend support and back what the coach is attempting to do. With this said, the process will require much more ongoing communication throughout the season. It should be communicated that the process of long-term development requires patience.

10 QUESTIONS FOR PARENTS
(Analyzing my child’s team -- U-11 and above)

1) Are the players attempting to pass the ball on the ground to teammates, or are most passes just played long and far into space?

2) Does the team try to possess the ball? How many passes does the average possession last?

3) Is the ball up in the air or out of play for a large part of the game?

4) Does the team pass the ball laterally from one side of the field to the other switching the point of attack? Are they patient in building an attack, or do they hurry to kick the ball forward?

5) How often is the ball passed backwards? On a more evolved team the ball should be played back once every three to four passes.

6) Does the team rely almost solely on kicking the ball forward to a big fast player up front to score, and on another big fast player in the back to cover for mistakes and send the ball forward? If so, what kind of soccer experience is the rest of the team getting? (As the players move to a more advanced level of play we must remember that most defenders will be as big and fast as our team’s primary goal scorer. Also, better players and well-organized teams learn to defend long straight passes quite easily.)

7) Does the game appear to be out of control? Are there frequent, consecutive changes in possession?

8) Are all players moving to create space or to support the ball, or does the team rely on only a few players?

9) Do the players always play in the same position on the field or is there a rotation?
10) Has the team evolved from the beginning to the end of the season? Has your child progressed as a player?

(Excerpted from “Our Competition is the World: Ideas for implementing the United States Soccer Curriculum.” By Stan Baker 378 pages, 2012. Lulu Publishing. $22.99.)

 

Concussion Management Resources:

Eastern Pennsylvania Youth Soccer continues our efforts to provide the latest and most necessary information for the health safety our membership. We have developed this resource center to provide critical information regarding concussions and traumatic brain injury.

In November of 2012, our associations Board of Directors passed a policy endorsing the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania Act 101, known as the "Safety In Youth Sports Act."  The Policy on Concussion Procedure and Protocol mandates concussion education for everyone involved in our sport, including parents and players.  This policy also mandates certification for all coaches.  In addition all member organizations must annually certify that they are compliant with the policy.

A copy of Act 101 and the Policy on Concussion Procedure and Protocol are provided on this site.

We have partnered with some of the leading organizations in the country to provide these resources to you. 

CHECK http://www.epysa.org/resources/concussion_information/

 

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On the Way to Play -- Kids Take Cues from Parents

 

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By John O'Sullivan

Many a big game has been lost, and many a performance has been ruined, before a single player even steps on the field. It's called the car ride to the game!

As a coach I waged many a battle against the “statistics dad.” He was the guy who told the vanload of kids on the way to the game how their upcoming opponent scored 62 goals and only gave up 3, had not lost in two years, and how their smallest player was bigger than him and had already committed to Stanford at age 12.

Stats Dad soon realized that the kids in the van were no longer smiling but scared to death, so he closed with “Oh, but you guys will be fine, you can win.” And then he handed them off to me with a quick “Go get ’em, coach, these girls are ready!” Ready to what, puke?

Your kids take cues from you, plain and simple, and when you make it clear that this moment is so huge, so important, and so impossible a task, how do you think a 12-year-old is going to react?

Do you work well if you are told that if you mess up you are fired? Could you complete a task at work if you knew that your coworkers and boss were going to yell at you constantly and micromanage your work? If you have to talk before or during the game, then fill kids’ tanks with belief, with confidence, and talk them through ways they can be successful. Better yet, just leave them alone and let them figure it out. They might just surprise you.

Your kids hear what you say, but they are more likely to believe what they see. While being a fan and being a coach are quite different in many regards, one aspect where they are the same is in how players perceive your reactions to certain events during competition.

Next time you are at a youth sporting event, take a look at what players do after a big mistake, a strikeout, or a missed scoring opportunity. They often put their head down, then look at their coach, and then look for their parents. They are looking to see how mom and dad reacted to their error.

If mom and dad are sitting there, holding their heads in shame, faces buried in their hands, they are visually telling their child that what he has done is not good. They are reinforcing all the negative thoughts that are going through his own head in that moment. They are telling him that it is OK to dwell on his mistake because that is exactly what they are doing.

Ultimately, and most damaging, they are telling him that his value is tied to athletic performance. It is sad to hear many young athletes talk about “that look on my mom’s face when I didn’t do well.”

What if your daughter turned to you during the game and saw you clapping and mouthing “great effort” to her as she jogged by. What if she saw you smile, or wink, or give a thumbs-up, telling her it’s OK, to get on with it, to play the next play and forget about the last one. What if she saw you laughing and giggling before the big game instead of looking like you were shipping her off to war?

This simple little switch in your actions and reactions can play a huge role in your child’s love of the game and an even bigger role in her ability to perform in competition.

Coaches know there is no way to know if a player can make the gamewinning shot, or perform in the close game, unless they give her that chance. As a parent, I am often amazed at what my kids can accomplish if I just give them the opportunity to figure it out. It is crucially important that we convey this to our kids through our actions and reactions.

In my coaching I have always adhered to the famous Henry Ford quote: “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” Let’s make sure that when our kids look at us, they know that we believe in them, and that we think they can succeed!



 

Youth Parents Everywhere Are to Blame

We need to get real here.

It’s the SAD TRUTH that club teams are forced to win games because if they don’t, some parents will pull their kids off the team the next time there are tryouts and jump ship to a different team or club. This is a phenomenon that is experienced across all of youth sports – and it’s time for parents to wake up and make better decisions.

The only way this phenomenon will cease is if parents band together around a Coach They Trust and commit to staying with them through the ups and downs.

We need to allow Coaches We Trust the opportunity to select players to a team who have developmental potential – players who maybe are late growing and small, or in the middle of growing a ton and are awkward, or players who have had little technical training and need to learn. If a Coach We Trust sees enough potential in a player to bring them onto the team, then parents must trust the coach and welcome this player to the field - keeping the long-term growth of the team, and the long term athletic development of your children, in mind.

Parents must rally other parents to not focus on winning, but instead, on development.

I will admit to times myself when I have found myself thinking stressful thoughts at the entrance of a player into a game knowing there will be a drop off. Of course it is a fleeting thought, but when I think it, I am a parent who is more concerned with winning than in the development of the player.

Parents, once you find a Coach You Trust, BE COMMITTED TO THEM.

 

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

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